Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

well thats wrong..because a lot of us on here do tell our guys what we want..and nothing gets done...its what they want and only what they want...

kayla

men are not evil, and women do as bad or worse things to men emotionally; it just doesn't get as much publicity because men are socially stigmatized when they admit that a woman managed to break their heart. Especially they don't want to admit to anyone that a woman left them, or preferred another man to them, it's like pouring barbeque sauce all over your body and jumping into the lion's den, the other guys will eat you alive. So women, get over yourselves, and if you want him, tell him so. Act like it. Seduce him, show him. Don't expect him to read your mind, because he can't. But if you tell him what you want, and he doesn't want to give it to you, then that should be a reasonable sign. All this BS about what he might or might not want, is nonsense. Just ask him. If he's being honest, you'll know, and you can work things out. If he refuses to be honest (deliberate lying), then no matter what you do, the relationship is doomed.

there is no reason as in to why i dont trust him..he is just the type of guy...that was great at first...actually showed he loved you...then...just stopped...and ive been so hurt in the past that I have to have him show me he loves me all the time and give me affection...and i dont get that..I have been raped, so him not telling me that makes it very hard for me to be able to trust him...because i think that he can find another girl..thats gorgeous and everything he talks to a lot of girls and always seems to flirt with them...i even offer to give him head all the time and not worry about me getting off just to get him to want to do something with me...but..that dont even work..so i am just to the point...where i feel completly ugly and disgusting because my own boyfriend wont even touch me sexually..and i basically got to beg him to hold me..or even kiss me...he dont say he loves me first..i have to..and he dont say it like he means it..and when he kisses me its just a quick peck and thats it..nothing more...i hope it gets better!!

Kayla

Hope you guys get over that and be alright. I think it's temporary

Thank you....it does help actually..because we have been having a issue with him talking to another girl....and i keep catching him in lies...and he lies to get outta the lies ive caught him in...i just dont know what to do....i guess im just in denial cause i love him...

You had mentioned something about you not trusting him for so long? i was just curious as to why you didnt trust him.? had he done something that made you feel like he was cheating? because i have had that happen. And i didnt trust my man for almost 8 months. and he dumped me. altho we had been together for about 6 before i started. and we loved eachother. but i noticed when i started keeping tabs on him,and asking him about things all the time, he became less interested in me. and started talking to other people. and i told him that i loved him and that the trustin was coming back. but it had hurt him so much that he couldnt feel the same way again... its been a year since i have talked to him. and he emailed me the other day. saying that he misses me and that he wants to get together sometime and have dinner. although i have another man at this point i am destined to find out it was so hard for him to love me again.... so my advice isnt much. but. to my knowledge. and this isnt for everyone... it seems that he is interested in someone else. and that he loves you. just doesnt care about you the same way he did before. becuase this is Exactly the same thing i went through... if you have any questions kayla ask me. thanks...

Janice.

Thank you Jenny, it does help!! I just hope it works...He knows how I am feeling and knows I want it..and he wants it...but...we have a issue where I havent trusted him for such a long time...and i think that has a major part of it..because I get jealous of him talking to girls...and thats something I need to work on...and am working on...It just takes time..and sometimes he dont make it easy...when he hides his phone..or deletes shit...or when the other girls are saying that when they get together......i guess...that can do something with the sex...

kayla

WEll I fell so bad for you. I have gone through he same thing. Its easy all you have to do is just show you don't care. I mean don't keep bringing it up he is gonna think you just want ot do it and he won't have the sex because he wants to he will do it because he feels you are pressuring him. Wait a while. Boys are just like girls. Think switch positions. You wouldn't like it if he kept bringing it up. But, whatever you do don't give up on him. It took about two years of no sex but we are having sex again. He will do it when he feels comfortable. Just wait soon it will happen and it will happen for true love because true love always comes through. And do not listen to people who tell you he already is cheating and other stuff like that. It will happen just wait and if takes too long bring it up only once and thats it let him think about it.

Hope this helped,

Jenny Murphy

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year, and for the past month and a half now we havent had sex at all. Before that it was maybe once a week for about a month or two. When we first got together we had it everyday twice a day, I couldnt keep him off me. He used to compliment the way I looked and was affectionate. He used to tell me he loved me all the time and want to hold me, and kiss me. Now I basically have to beg for him to even touch me. Sometimes I feel like I just want to cry so hard because I love him so much and want to be with him forever, but does he feel the same about me? He says he loves me and that its not my fault that we dont have sex, and he wants it just as much as I do. But he cant get it up. He doesnt try to do anything about it, he wont take anything. I even offer to give him head to try and turn him on to atleast help get it up. But no, I get turned down. I dont know what to do or what to think. I have never thought about cheating on him, but I am miserable. I hurt because I am so horny, I am always on edge. I dont find it satisying enough to pleasure myself, So I dont do it. I would rather he do it than me, it doesnt get me off fully. I feel like I am about ready to explode. Is there something that I am doing wrong? I tell him I love him, and that I am so happy to be with him. But, that doesnt seem to work. I have even though about putting viagra in his drinks to get him hard. But I cant seem to do that to him. I have not a clue what to do. Somebody help! I see all these people who are having the same problems as me.

Kayla

Hi there. Wow. I didn't expect to find so many pages talking about this. I have been with my man for ten months now. after dating for a month and a half he moved in permanently. When he used to come around in the beginning (b4 moving in), we sometimes used to have sex. But we have never had sex as often as everyone else seems to in the beginning. I am so confused - we are both 30 - and he has had soooo many girlfriends in the past. Every guy I have been with wants sex on a daily basis (and I am more than happy to oblige!). I love sex. I'm not a 'sex-a-holic' - I could never have sex with someone I wasn't attracted to or someone who I wasn't involved with... but I am getting more and more hurt. I have talked to him often about it and he always says that he is stressed about work - which he clearly is - and that he just isn't tired (when I eventually have to go to bed at 1or 2 am!) and that he is a 'morning sex' person, whereas I'm a night sex person - but he knows I would LOVE it anytime! He kisses me and cuddles me and tells me how beautiful I am and that he wants to spend his life with me.... but I don't know if I can keep masturbating every time i feel horny for the rest of my life and fantasising about previous partners as whenever I try to fantasise about him I just have this overwhelming sense of rejection that i end up crying and feeling even more frustrated! I don't believe he is cheating on me - he comes home late but if I drive past work he is always there. What do I do? WHen I asked him again last week about it, he said 'well how often do you want it anyway?' - he thinks once a week is good, but if it doesn't happen, no matter. It's been 4 weeks since sex. He wants to be a dad so much and everytime I get a period cramp or say I feel sick, he gets excited and says 'you might be pregnant!'.... why? you have to have sex to get pregnant! I feel so alone and I cant talk to anyone about this... every other guy i have been with treated me terribly and this man is loving and caring and so tender.... what do I do???? I don't think he's gay - it's clear he loves women, as he will often check em out at the beach if wearing a bikini (as I dont feel confident enough to wear one) which makes me feel even worse.... i know i am attractive, i know that i could get another man, but i love this man so much. what do i do???? please. I feel so lost. My self esteem sucks and I was such a confident person before i started feeling so rejected. Even as i write this, tears are running down my cheeks! I just want to feel desired! HELP!