Ladies, I was married for 25 years from age 19 to 43. My husband was emotionally abusive almost the entire time, and now I know that he suffers from mental illness - bipolar disorder. He refuses medication. Anyhow, my relationship looked a LOT like those you read here. He chased away what few friends I had. I was grilled about where I was going, and he would even call my friend's house to say, ok it's time you leave and come home now. He once punched a hole in the wall beside me because of an argument, and told me I made him do it and next time it might be my head. There's the daily belittling, he's smarter than me, he cooks better than me, etc etc. The reason I'm posting is, things can and do get worse - not better - when you stay, so get out now. I got to the point where I was so desperate for a human connection that I had a brief affair with another man at my part-time job. After that, my infidelity caused extreme abuse both emotional and verbal, for years. Forever more that will be his *reason* why I am scum and why he hates me, why our marriage failed. But it wasn't the reason. Well I've been GONE with my children for 2 and a half years thank God I'm on my own. I hope and pray those of you in an emotionally abusive relationship will find the courage to leave somehow. Reach out to a local women's shelter. I know you don't want to leave the comfort of your home and your neighbors/friends, etc. I understand, I've been there "the devil you know is better" kind of thinking. In the long run if you can't do it for you, do it for your children. That's how I found my courage, I told myself I had to get out for the kids' sake, and I did.
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Ladies, I was married for 25 years from age 19 to 43. My husband was emotionally abusive almost the entire time, and now I know that he suffers from mental illness - bipolar disorder. He refuses medication. Anyhow, my relationship looked a LOT like those you read here. He chased away what few friends I had. I was grilled about where I was going, and he would even call my friend's house to say, ok it's time you leave and come home now. He once punched a hole in the wall beside me because of an argument, and told me I made him do it and next time it might be my head. There's the daily belittling, he's smarter than me, he cooks better than me, etc etc. The reason I'm posting is, things can and do get worse - not better - when you stay, so get out now. I got to the point where I was so desperate for a human connection that I had a brief affair with another man at my part-time job. After that, my infidelity caused extreme abuse both emotional and verbal, for years. Forever more that will be his *reason* why I am scum and why he hates me, why our marriage failed. But it wasn't the reason. Well I've been GONE with my children for 2 and a half years thank God I'm on my own. I hope and pray those of you in an emotionally abusive relationship will find the courage to leave somehow. Reach out to a local women's shelter. I know you don't want to leave the comfort of your home and your neighbors/friends, etc. I understand, I've been there "the devil you know is better" kind of thinking. In the long run if you can't do it for you, do it for your children. That's how I found my courage, I told myself I had to get out for the kids' sake, and I did.
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