Thank you for your response, it's much appreciated. Even though that was not the response I was hoping for, I do understand your point of view. To answer your questions. Yes, he is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. We have talked about having kids and personally yes, I would love nothing more than to have his children. I have already accepted the reality that whenever I become older each year, so does he. That is fine by me.
I do understand that you suggested it is all up to him from this point onward, however he is in a very fragile place right now. A place where one right word said will move him in my direction and one wrong word or stare from a passer by will move him in the wrong direction, away from me.
That is why I thought I would go talk to his parents and sisters and basically explain to them that we have been together for almost 2 years now and that we are both very happy. It didn't bother them when they didn't know, why should it now? And besides, they are married, have kids. They are happily settled down. Why not respect their brother's decision and let it be? I am talking as if I had already spoken to them and they shot down what I had said, I guess it is because I am scared they will... I can imagine that perhaps his past unsuccessful relationships could also be cause to why he is so readily willing to throw in the towel because he is scared to get hurt. Perhaps my younger age is fueling me to find a way to make this work. Basically he said it is up to me now to show him how this will work because he can't think of any more ways, which is when I got the idea of flying over and seeing his parents and sisters.
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Dear Maryann,
Thank you for your response, it's much appreciated. Even though that was not the response I was hoping for, I do understand your point of view. To answer your questions. Yes, he is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. We have talked about having kids and personally yes, I would love nothing more than to have his children. I have already accepted the reality that whenever I become older each year, so does he. That is fine by me.
I do understand that you suggested it is all up to him from this point onward, however he is in a very fragile place right now. A place where one right word said will move him in my direction and one wrong word or stare from a passer by will move him in the wrong direction, away from me.
That is why I thought I would go talk to his parents and sisters and basically explain to them that we have been together for almost 2 years now and that we are both very happy. It didn't bother them when they didn't know, why should it now? And besides, they are married, have kids. They are happily settled down. Why not respect their brother's decision and let it be? I am talking as if I had already spoken to them and they shot down what I had said, I guess it is because I am scared they will... I can imagine that perhaps his past unsuccessful relationships could also be cause to why he is so readily willing to throw in the towel because he is scared to get hurt. Perhaps my younger age is fueling me to find a way to make this work. Basically he said it is up to me now to show him how this will work because he can't think of any more ways, which is when I got the idea of flying over and seeing his parents and sisters.
April 19, 2011 - 3:09amThis Comment
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