there are a lot of reasons why men lose libido.... stress, loss of testosterone due to supplements/diet (steroid use or coming off as well). what you need to be able to do is talk to your partner about it openly. express that you are feeling like there has been a change. ask if everything is ok. i was in the same situation. my boyfriend is a bodybuilder, and due to diet and 'supplement' changes the testosterone levels in his body dropped after the stress of competing. this absolutely KILLED our sex life and i thought it was ME!! i simply asked if everything was ok, and put it on me. asking if i should try new things or if he had suggestions. his response was very clearly it was nothing to do with ME and I KNOW there is no one else as we are best friends and spend most of our time together and live together. every single other aspect of our lives is PERFECT!!! turns out, between work, the 'off' season and no longer competing, money issues and the amount of housework were all contributing factors to his stress.
we want to believe that our men are strong and confiedent. truth is they are but they too have body issues and stresses.
my solution: i constantly gave him little reassurances. told him he's sexy. perfect. appreciate all he does for 'us' and our relationship. picked up my end of the house keeping a little bit and contributed a wee bit more.... so in the end... he didn't have SO much to do when he got home at the end of the day.... which left more time for...... :o)
i'm happy to say with a little patience and communication... express how important a healthy sex life is and that you are feeling insecure. all can be solved. ladies just be patient. encourage and support your man and try to ease his load a bit. and INITIATE!!! you'll notice that with a bit of effort for HIM and you will get the juices flowing again....
dont feel neglected. and withdraw and pout. focus on the good in the relationship. be grateful for all the great things he DOES bring to the relationship. you will notice before long that your problem has disintigrated!
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there are a lot of reasons why men lose libido.... stress, loss of testosterone due to supplements/diet (steroid use or coming off as well). what you need to be able to do is talk to your partner about it openly. express that you are feeling like there has been a change. ask if everything is ok. i was in the same situation. my boyfriend is a bodybuilder, and due to diet and 'supplement' changes the testosterone levels in his body dropped after the stress of competing. this absolutely KILLED our sex life and i thought it was ME!! i simply asked if everything was ok, and put it on me. asking if i should try new things or if he had suggestions. his response was very clearly it was nothing to do with ME and I KNOW there is no one else as we are best friends and spend most of our time together and live together. every single other aspect of our lives is PERFECT!!! turns out, between work, the 'off' season and no longer competing, money issues and the amount of housework were all contributing factors to his stress.
we want to believe that our men are strong and confiedent. truth is they are but they too have body issues and stresses.
my solution: i constantly gave him little reassurances. told him he's sexy. perfect. appreciate all he does for 'us' and our relationship. picked up my end of the house keeping a little bit and contributed a wee bit more.... so in the end... he didn't have SO much to do when he got home at the end of the day.... which left more time for...... :o)
i'm happy to say with a little patience and communication... express how important a healthy sex life is and that you are feeling insecure. all can be solved. ladies just be patient. encourage and support your man and try to ease his load a bit. and INITIATE!!! you'll notice that with a bit of effort for HIM and you will get the juices flowing again....
dont feel neglected. and withdraw and pout. focus on the good in the relationship. be grateful for all the great things he DOES bring to the relationship. you will notice before long that your problem has disintigrated!
happy manifesting!
November 17, 2010 - 8:53pmThis Comment
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