Thank you for sharing your story and yes, this is a very common occurrence. The main thing I wanted to point out in your story is that you are losing YOUR self-esteem. There was one thing I read before and I always like to share this idea, no one can raise or lower your self-esteem but you. Try not to seclude yourself from your esteem due to the lack of sex in your relationship.
Think about this, men are attracted to women for their confidence (and I am sure other things, lol) but if you are in control of yourself, he may follow suit. Would you rather follow someone that is positive or someone that complains all the time. This is what he may be feeling because men never like to hear, “We need to talk”.
Maybe trying to boost your self esteem will help in the relationship. Do you workout, feel confident??? These are very important issues to maintain for you! Be strong and just maybe he will recognize that and not feel threatened by the dreadful talk. Try it out and let us know what happens.
We are happy that you found EmpowHer, this is a great place to vent as well as learn about women's health. We certainly would love to hear from you again.
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Hi Alex,
Thank you for sharing your story and yes, this is a very common occurrence. The main thing I wanted to point out in your story is that you are losing YOUR self-esteem. There was one thing I read before and I always like to share this idea, no one can raise or lower your self-esteem but you. Try not to seclude yourself from your esteem due to the lack of sex in your relationship.
Think about this, men are attracted to women for their confidence (and I am sure other things, lol) but if you are in control of yourself, he may follow suit. Would you rather follow someone that is positive or someone that complains all the time. This is what he may be feeling because men never like to hear, “We need to talk”.
Maybe trying to boost your self esteem will help in the relationship. Do you workout, feel confident??? These are very important issues to maintain for you! Be strong and just maybe he will recognize that and not feel threatened by the dreadful talk. Try it out and let us know what happens.
We are happy that you found EmpowHer, this is a great place to vent as well as learn about women's health. We certainly would love to hear from you again.
Best of Luck!
October 17, 2010 - 9:31amMissie
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