Im going through the exact same thing with my bf. weve been together a year and a half. over the course of about 8 months now, we've had sex less and less. im lucky to get it once a fortnight! and i feel bad for having to ask, 1. i shouldnt have to ask, 2. it makes my self esteem hit the floor when he rejects me.
he did tell me all those months ago, when he started to tell me no, that he felt depressed(over losing his job/his dad passing) and that was the reason for it.
i totally respect that!and iv supported himas much as i can...but after 8 months, of sex once every few weeks(and having to do all the work myself OR having to basically bribe him into it!) i cant handle it anymore!
he'l happily accept oral sex, but doesnt ever want sex with me. and when we do have it, i have to make all the moves, he never comes onto me :(
i understand depression will affect your sex drive, but there must be something wrong?! he doesnt fancy me? he has a problem down there? hes lazy?
Cheating on me is definetly not the problem, i love and trust him 100%
iv tried again and again to get him to open up to me, as i believe a problem shared is a problem halved, but nothing ever comes of it.
i love the satisfaction of pleasing him and dont get why he doesnt want to do the same for me!
i need some advice, as i dont know who to talk to about it, im too embarresed to tell my friends, and he seems to try any excuse to avoid the convo when iv tried to talk to him about it.
i love him so much and just want to sort it out.
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Im going through the exact same thing with my bf. weve been together a year and a half. over the course of about 8 months now, we've had sex less and less. im lucky to get it once a fortnight! and i feel bad for having to ask, 1. i shouldnt have to ask, 2. it makes my self esteem hit the floor when he rejects me.
he did tell me all those months ago, when he started to tell me no, that he felt depressed(over losing his job/his dad passing) and that was the reason for it.
i totally respect that!and iv supported himas much as i can...but after 8 months, of sex once every few weeks(and having to do all the work myself OR having to basically bribe him into it!) i cant handle it anymore!
he'l happily accept oral sex, but doesnt ever want sex with me. and when we do have it, i have to make all the moves, he never comes onto me :(
i understand depression will affect your sex drive, but there must be something wrong?! he doesnt fancy me? he has a problem down there? hes lazy?
Cheating on me is definetly not the problem, i love and trust him 100%
iv tried again and again to get him to open up to me, as i believe a problem shared is a problem halved, but nothing ever comes of it.
i love the satisfaction of pleasing him and dont get why he doesnt want to do the same for me!
i need some advice, as i dont know who to talk to about it, im too embarresed to tell my friends, and he seems to try any excuse to avoid the convo when iv tried to talk to him about it.
May 10, 2010 - 3:48ami love him so much and just want to sort it out.
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