Hello All,
I just came out of a very painful 3 year relationship with a man that didn't want to have sex. It was like this from the very beginning of our relationship aside from the about 2 week period where the sex was often. We did have sex probably about three or four times a month though - due to my initiation and begging. He rejected me about 8 times out of 10. It was incredibly damaging to my self esteem. It made me feel so insecure and at the same time desperate for his love and attraction. I finally ended up cheating on him about a year ago. I cheated with an ex of mine and it happened about 5 times. My boyfriend found out and afterwards, the sex did become more frequent but he basically treated me like trash. He has now just left me for another woman and moved back to his home country. I am devastated. I put in so much effort trying to figure out what was going on with his lack of sex drive. I tried to take him to counseling. I wondered and researched about the possibility of him being gay or asexual. I researched it to death because he wouldn't just come out and say that he wasn't attracted to me. And I think now looking back, that he was never really into the relationship as much as I was. Please ladies, save yourself the heartbreak and when not only is he not sleeping with you but you just don't feel as loved as you want to - LEAVE. It is sooooo draining to stay in that even if it is comfortable. And it just gets harder and harder. So if you are not getting the love that you want, I advise everyone out there to avoid what I went through and leave!
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Hello All,
March 15, 2010 - 8:59pmI just came out of a very painful 3 year relationship with a man that didn't want to have sex. It was like this from the very beginning of our relationship aside from the about 2 week period where the sex was often. We did have sex probably about three or four times a month though - due to my initiation and begging. He rejected me about 8 times out of 10. It was incredibly damaging to my self esteem. It made me feel so insecure and at the same time desperate for his love and attraction. I finally ended up cheating on him about a year ago. I cheated with an ex of mine and it happened about 5 times. My boyfriend found out and afterwards, the sex did become more frequent but he basically treated me like trash. He has now just left me for another woman and moved back to his home country. I am devastated. I put in so much effort trying to figure out what was going on with his lack of sex drive. I tried to take him to counseling. I wondered and researched about the possibility of him being gay or asexual. I researched it to death because he wouldn't just come out and say that he wasn't attracted to me. And I think now looking back, that he was never really into the relationship as much as I was. Please ladies, save yourself the heartbreak and when not only is he not sleeping with you but you just don't feel as loved as you want to - LEAVE. It is sooooo draining to stay in that even if it is comfortable. And it just gets harder and harder. So if you are not getting the love that you want, I advise everyone out there to avoid what I went through and leave!
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