Wow I am so glad and also sorry that there are so many women in my position. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years now and we have similair problems. In fact I even broke up with him for 3 months because of it, 4 years into our relationship. I have to say I am clueless why he is like this. When we first were together we had sex 3 or 4 nights a week than it went down to twice then nothing for 6 months at a time!! I got back together with him as he is the most loveliest man you will ever meet. And when we got back together although our relationship was stormy the sex was always there. Now that we have started getting along better the sex only happens once in 2 months if I am lucky. We have talked about this and I have been through the lot getting angry, crying and he goes through the same old drill of "trying harder". But it only happens for a few weeks and then back to a sexless life again. I think I am quite attractive and do have some interests from other men but will not cheat. I find myself going into a downward spiral of not being loved or attractive enough to him. And it really gets to me when he's around his mates and they see a celebrity woman and he feels comfortable enough about commenting on how hot they are when he's got an able, willing ready to pounce on him woman right here and does sweet F.A about it. When we do talk about it he cannot really answer any of my questions on why. I have to admit that I am fiery and get angry about it and he clams up when I do but even normally talking to him yields nothing but a lot of silence. I have asked whether he is less attracted to me and he always denies it maybe I might prefer if he did tell me so at least I am not left with so much self doubt and can do something about it. The confusing this is that he still does all the cuddling and holds my hand but that is it. I have had very few people to talk to about this so this is a huge relief of my chest to be able to share. The thing is a lot of man go on and on about not getting enough sex from the wives/girlfriends and it is "acceptable" but when it is the other way round society would see the woman as some sort of freak with something disgustingly wrong with her so much so that her lover does not want to have sex with her. I really hope things will change so that we will stay together but cannot see that happenign at the moment.
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Wow I am so glad and also sorry that there are so many women in my position. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years now and we have similair problems. In fact I even broke up with him for 3 months because of it, 4 years into our relationship. I have to say I am clueless why he is like this. When we first were together we had sex 3 or 4 nights a week than it went down to twice then nothing for 6 months at a time!! I got back together with him as he is the most loveliest man you will ever meet. And when we got back together although our relationship was stormy the sex was always there. Now that we have started getting along better the sex only happens once in 2 months if I am lucky. We have talked about this and I have been through the lot getting angry, crying and he goes through the same old drill of "trying harder". But it only happens for a few weeks and then back to a sexless life again. I think I am quite attractive and do have some interests from other men but will not cheat. I find myself going into a downward spiral of not being loved or attractive enough to him. And it really gets to me when he's around his mates and they see a celebrity woman and he feels comfortable enough about commenting on how hot they are when he's got an able, willing ready to pounce on him woman right here and does sweet F.A about it. When we do talk about it he cannot really answer any of my questions on why. I have to admit that I am fiery and get angry about it and he clams up when I do but even normally talking to him yields nothing but a lot of silence. I have asked whether he is less attracted to me and he always denies it maybe I might prefer if he did tell me so at least I am not left with so much self doubt and can do something about it. The confusing this is that he still does all the cuddling and holds my hand but that is it. I have had very few people to talk to about this so this is a huge relief of my chest to be able to share. The thing is a lot of man go on and on about not getting enough sex from the wives/girlfriends and it is "acceptable" but when it is the other way round society would see the woman as some sort of freak with something disgustingly wrong with her so much so that her lover does not want to have sex with her. I really hope things will change so that we will stay together but cannot see that happenign at the moment.
March 13, 2010 - 4:29pmThis Comment
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