Thank you 45 yr. old anonymous for your message here...that helps. I am a 40 y.o. woman myself, never married, and not living in with my boyfriend, nor have lived in with anyone. My personal choice.
I like what you are doing! I think around the same time. Before I met my current bf, I had my own small junior bedroom apartment., I did not have a TV in my bedroom. I do believe the TV is a distraction from any bedroom action.
Let me just make a note to say...women do not have to "do" all the time, and feel like they have to do all
the work, the strain, the worrying, which I see a lot from women who write here (yes, myself included).
So yes, while all the things you say here helps, the difference is you are already "there" with your man...what I mean to say is you've already got him "into" you. The problem with many women here is they are disengaged with the man. And therein lies the problem. : )
What I suggest is a lot honest of self-analysis...just observe yourself, as if you are standing next to you. Watch how you are in other relationships in your life, not just your significant other. Trust me, you will learn a lot! I am doing this myself at the moment...
When you observe yourself, be kind to yourself, and you don't have to do anything different, you are just observing for now, and learning about yourself.
I may just be blabbing...but then again, I may make sense to some people more tuned in...
Lastly, I realize sometimes it just post "Anonymous", so it is me, Enlightened. However, I don't claim to be.
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Thank you 45 yr. old anonymous for your message here...that helps. I am a 40 y.o. woman myself, never married, and not living in with my boyfriend, nor have lived in with anyone. My personal choice.
I like what you are doing! I think around the same time. Before I met my current bf, I had my own small junior bedroom apartment., I did not have a TV in my bedroom. I do believe the TV is a distraction from any bedroom action.
Let me just make a note to say...women do not have to "do" all the time, and feel like they have to do all
the work, the strain, the worrying, which I see a lot from women who write here (yes, myself included).
So yes, while all the things you say here helps, the difference is you are already "there" with your man...what I mean to say is you've already got him "into" you. The problem with many women here is they are disengaged with the man. And therein lies the problem. : )
What I suggest is a lot honest of self-analysis...just observe yourself, as if you are standing next to you. Watch how you are in other relationships in your life, not just your significant other. Trust me, you will learn a lot! I am doing this myself at the moment...
When you observe yourself, be kind to yourself, and you don't have to do anything different, you are just observing for now, and learning about yourself.
I may just be blabbing...but then again, I may make sense to some people more tuned in...
Lastly, I realize sometimes it just post "Anonymous", so it is me, Enlightened. However, I don't claim to be.
September 9, 2009 - 7:31amThis Comment
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