Yes, why are we on the bottom of our priority lists?!? It doesn't make sense when you think about all who depend on us.
I've written a little on the site about how I've been on my own personal journey since my divorce last spring, trying to re-claim who I once was, and rebuilding my self esteem. One thing I did, as a gift to myself for surviving the divorce as well as many, many years of emotional abuse, was to get a membership at a massage therapy center to have two massages a month for this year. It hurt slightly financially to do this, but I felt like I needed to do something for myself and at the same time wanted to teach myself how to do something for myself and make myself a priority.
At first I really had to force the massages into my calendar, and it wasn't easy. And sometimes I'd cancel and reschedule my massage appointments as I struggled with my priorities and continued to put myself last. But, after several months I've come to realize how important these two hours a month are to me and my mental health. It's a commitment I've made to myself. And yet, just the other day I was making plans with my boyfriend to go out to dinner and realized that I had a massage scheduled for the night we were initially talking about. The rest of my month is already so jam-packed that I knew if I cancelled that massage, it would be several weeks before I'd be able to reschedule. At first I was so willing to give up my "me" time but then I stopped myself and figured out a way to make both the massage and dinner with my boyfriend work.
I guess I'm understanding that just like I schedule appointments with others, I need to schedule time with myself. And stick with it.
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Awesome post and great thoughts!!!
Yes, why are we on the bottom of our priority lists?!? It doesn't make sense when you think about all who depend on us.
I've written a little on the site about how I've been on my own personal journey since my divorce last spring, trying to re-claim who I once was, and rebuilding my self esteem. One thing I did, as a gift to myself for surviving the divorce as well as many, many years of emotional abuse, was to get a membership at a massage therapy center to have two massages a month for this year. It hurt slightly financially to do this, but I felt like I needed to do something for myself and at the same time wanted to teach myself how to do something for myself and make myself a priority.
At first I really had to force the massages into my calendar, and it wasn't easy. And sometimes I'd cancel and reschedule my massage appointments as I struggled with my priorities and continued to put myself last. But, after several months I've come to realize how important these two hours a month are to me and my mental health. It's a commitment I've made to myself. And yet, just the other day I was making plans with my boyfriend to go out to dinner and realized that I had a massage scheduled for the night we were initially talking about. The rest of my month is already so jam-packed that I knew if I cancelled that massage, it would be several weeks before I'd be able to reschedule. At first I was so willing to give up my "me" time but then I stopped myself and figured out a way to make both the massage and dinner with my boyfriend work.
I guess I'm understanding that just like I schedule appointments with others, I need to schedule time with myself. And stick with it.
January 13, 2009 - 2:03pmThis Comment
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