Let me see if I can help out from a sick person's point of view. There are a few dynamics which need to be considered that if you've never been sick long term, you might not know to consider. When the body is sick it does not function properly. That includes the brain. Which means, one symptom of being ill can be severe personality change. I have been battling cancer and have won just to see it come back. When I am well my personality returns. I am no longer codependent, angry, snapping, paranoid, full of guilt, fear, frustration, constant pain , anger at the world. When the body functions the mind returns' at least in my case. Maybe not exactly the same, but close. When I was ill, I tried to convince my spouse to leave. I felt selfish needing someone so much and watching them take on all the things I usually take on. Being sick is like becoming a living ghost. You cannot participate in life. You can only watch as it goes by you. When we become elders, we all go through this. Eventually, each of us will need another person in this way. This was one reason my wife chose not to leave. Another reason is as soon as I had "a good day" I took advantage of that to help her, to sacrifice my very small amount of precious time on her because she has been so selfless for me. I don't on her, make love to her, tell her how beautiful she is and take the opportunity to go out of my way to do as much as I can. Just this little bit got us through. In situations where there are no good days, were I in your husbands shies, I would selflessly leave or find a way to chase her off so she wouldn't have to go through this. Why should she become a ghost before her time? Perhaps this is a sign your husband is trying to chase you off? Men are too many times closed lipped about these sorts of things. Or it could be that his illness is having a common chemical change on the mind. If it seems he is not himself and the change happens suddenly, like a switch, I would be very suspicious that this is actually a symptom of his illness. If he is just becoming angry with the world, this will pass. Everyone who is sick lopg term or faces a terminal illnessesgoes through stages of grief and anger, but these states pass given time. Now, I don't assume I can give you your answers, but hopefully with see facts, you can come to a decision that feels right for you, when we love someone, we do not WANT to prolong their suffering. Just a thought.
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Let me see if I can help out from a sick person's point of view. There are a few dynamics which need to be considered that if you've never been sick long term, you might not know to consider. When the body is sick it does not function properly. That includes the brain. Which means, one symptom of being ill can be severe personality change. I have been battling cancer and have won just to see it come back. When I am well my personality returns. I am no longer codependent, angry, snapping, paranoid, full of guilt, fear, frustration, constant pain , anger at the world. When the body functions the mind returns' at least in my case. Maybe not exactly the same, but close. When I was ill, I tried to convince my spouse to leave. I felt selfish needing someone so much and watching them take on all the things I usually take on. Being sick is like becoming a living ghost. You cannot participate in life. You can only watch as it goes by you. When we become elders, we all go through this. Eventually, each of us will need another person in this way. This was one reason my wife chose not to leave. Another reason is as soon as I had "a good day" I took advantage of that to help her, to sacrifice my very small amount of precious time on her because she has been so selfless for me. I don't on her, make love to her, tell her how beautiful she is and take the opportunity to go out of my way to do as much as I can. Just this little bit got us through. In situations where there are no good days, were I in your husbands shies, I would selflessly leave or find a way to chase her off so she wouldn't have to go through this. Why should she become a ghost before her time? Perhaps this is a sign your husband is trying to chase you off? Men are too many times closed lipped about these sorts of things. Or it could be that his illness is having a common chemical change on the mind. If it seems he is not himself and the change happens suddenly, like a switch, I would be very suspicious that this is actually a symptom of his illness. If he is just becoming angry with the world, this will pass. Everyone who is sick lopg term or faces a terminal illnessesgoes through stages of grief and anger, but these states pass given time. Now, I don't assume I can give you your answers, but hopefully with see facts, you can come to a decision that feels right for you, when we love someone, we do not WANT to prolong their suffering. Just a thought.
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