Spoken exactly like someone who hasn't walked in my shoes. Self-pity, not me. But seriously, once your spouse is ill, if it weren't for self-pity, there probabl y wouldn't be any concern for the caregiver otherwise. Ever spend holiday after holiday being asked how your spous is? And not once does anyone ask how YOU are? You, the only one working for $, the only one caring for your spouse, the only one caring for 3 kids, the home? No, I don't think you know what this is like. And on top of many of our stories, we aren't caring for a sweet, cooperative spouse who is appreciative. The common thread you seem to be missing is that the categiver is a person with needs, too; and just because our spouse has hit some poor luck doesn't mean our needs aren't important too. I think you are looking at this from only the ill's perspective. I see your view, and it comes from the cheap seats.
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Spoken exactly like someone who hasn't walked in my shoes. Self-pity, not me. But seriously, once your spouse is ill, if it weren't for self-pity, there probabl y wouldn't be any concern for the caregiver otherwise. Ever spend holiday after holiday being asked how your spous is? And not once does anyone ask how YOU are? You, the only one working for $, the only one caring for your spouse, the only one caring for 3 kids, the home? No, I don't think you know what this is like. And on top of many of our stories, we aren't caring for a sweet, cooperative spouse who is appreciative. The common thread you seem to be missing is that the categiver is a person with needs, too; and just because our spouse has hit some poor luck doesn't mean our needs aren't important too. I think you are looking at this from only the ill's perspective. I see your view, and it comes from the cheap seats.
August 19, 2015 - 4:54amThis Comment
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