Thank you for your thanks, but I don't think I deserve commendation for what is really another small attempt at reparations for some of the misery I inflicted on women during my unenlightened years. And, the intention was not so much to aid women in their search for gratification, though personal sexual gratification is certainly important to the well-being of any person, but more to point out that women should NOT blame themselves by feeling "dysfunctional" - the term "dysfunctional" is really too harsh when the result is that many women just feel themselves to be less than other women, which can destroy a person's self-worth.
(OOPS!) I only just realised I made an error (twice) in the fifth paragraph when speaking of an "inverted uterus", what I should have written was INVERTED WOMB - it is at the entrance to the womb where the deep-nerve-centre is located. Sorry, it was rather late in my time-zone when I wrote the comment. I will edit the error from the original posting immediately.)
The differences between our genders is enormous, yet they are also complimentary. A male will generally make better physical judgments than a woman, yet women nearly always make better emotional judgments than men, except for once a month when hormonal changes throw her better judgments out of whack; but even this has a natural and practical function in a relationship as it allows the airing of grievances that would normally be kept to oneself, where they accumulate.
A way to help a relationship in this regard is to follow a simple rule: for every grievance you wish to resolve be sure it is preceded by three real compliments. For example; after two previous real compliments, after dinner you might compliment your other for his or her cooking, and then just happen to mention that you'd prefer that they didn't leave the cap off the toothpaste. These little annoyances, if not dealt with, accumulate on a list of grievances that only come up when there is dispute - and then they all come out in a torrent.
In my comment I also meant to point out that a female can experience sexual pleasure on a much more intense and many-varied level than a male could ever dream of - every total climax can be potentially completely different for a female, and this is where the greatest pleasure for a male comes from as we are limited to only five levels, and the fifth is rarely reached. Males instinctively know that a female's pleasure is the measure of the sexual experience. Note that men will boast about their prowess with "She loved it! She was begging for more! She couldn't get enough!" rather than being selfish and declaring "I loved it! I was begging for more! I couldn't get enough!".
Female-kind is divided by a near 50% difference, somewhere between 40% and 60% of all women never experience sexual pleasure of any kind. Which is why attitudes between women on many subjects can be so opposite. It is also why most women believe their gender to be inferior in some way, they can see a clear divide inside their own social groups. This is wrong. Females are much better at networking and are naturally more communicative, THEY ARE BORN LEADERS, they are the power behind the throne and the hand that rocks the cradle, yet they account for only a small percentage of the people who govern this world. Unfortunately the only women who manage to make the transition from second-class advisory citizen to decision-making leader are those who display the worst aspects of males! If you ever wonder at the stupid and senseless choices that our leaders often come up with, there is your answer! However, any person from either gender can, with much effort, attain better than the average skills of the opposite gender. Men could, in an ideal world, have some small representation as leaders.
I prefer "self-stimulation" to "masturbation" because so many negative connotations are now related to "masturbation".
There are many reasons why many girls don't learn to self-stimulate during the formative years - they may be restricted by circumstance, having to share a bedroom or not realising that touching herself there felt good, or just being told not to do that when she first noticed it felt good when doing it, perhaps in front of a parent. Being able to experience an outside-nerve-centre (O.N.C) spasm is certainly necessary for a complete orgasm, but, many women do get by with deep-nerve-centre(D.N.C.) spasms, and, because women are most happy when they are emotionally satisfied, if they have a romantic partner sexual gratification becomes less important.
Many males are "naturals" at stimulating females that are capable of O.N.C. spasms but they are mostly inept in the maturation of said O.N.C.. And they are dangerous.
A woman can lose total control when in the throws of arousal when men cannot! Which makes the argument for a male's rape of a female even more ridiculous when they declare that "I was so turned on that I couldn't stop myself", usually blaming the female for her part in his arousal. But the real danger is in that males who are capable of taking away a female's control actually take advantage of the fact and end the encounter with actual penetration, when they would be better served to not. I'll use an example in explanation: Imagine a young couple in in the throws of passion in the not-very-convenient back seat of a car, for instance. He has stimulated her to the point of loss-of-control, and, even though he loves her, decides he's going to go the whole distance. She can't orgasm completely under less-than-perfect conditions and feels that she has been used afterward. Imagine the same circumstance, but instead of taking advantage of her the male tells her in the midst of her loss-of-control that he would like to consummate but that it wouldn't be perfect, and she deserved to have only the best circumstances for the day when they would complete the passion. If he did then bring her to spasm and kissed-and-cuddled her down from its peak it would go a long way toward enhancing the romantic aspect of their relationship. Can you see how this would effect the female's appreciation of him? Even if the relationship didn't come to fruition, the female would always have a place in her heart for the gentleman who treated her well. The loss of the ability to love that comes from seemingly endless failed sexual relationships is very common, and can and does lead to harmful aberrations. This is why complete-sex (including penetration) before marriage is actually a bad idea. This doesn't mean that all sex should be discounted before marriage, in fact, the closer a couple get to the big day the more they should be exploring each others bodies with mutual stimulation! By the way, oral sex is complimentary, which means it's a compliment! It should only be understood to be a compliment as there is no physical pleasure in giving it. You can never ask for a compliment or it ceases being a compliment.
I didn't mean for this reply to become so lengthy but I'm afraid that is what has happened. Sorry about that.
I hope to be able to help my sisters any way I can through this forum, they are all beautiful in their many ways and they are all deserving of better than they get.
Thank you, miscortes, for your appreciation of this male's humble attempt at reparation.
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Thank you for your thanks, but I don't think I deserve commendation for what is really another small attempt at reparations for some of the misery I inflicted on women during my unenlightened years. And, the intention was not so much to aid women in their search for gratification, though personal sexual gratification is certainly important to the well-being of any person, but more to point out that women should NOT blame themselves by feeling "dysfunctional" - the term "dysfunctional" is really too harsh when the result is that many women just feel themselves to be less than other women, which can destroy a person's self-worth.
(OOPS!) I only just realised I made an error (twice) in the fifth paragraph when speaking of an "inverted uterus", what I should have written was INVERTED WOMB - it is at the entrance to the womb where the deep-nerve-centre is located. Sorry, it was rather late in my time-zone when I wrote the comment. I will edit the error from the original posting immediately.)
The differences between our genders is enormous, yet they are also complimentary. A male will generally make better physical judgments than a woman, yet women nearly always make better emotional judgments than men, except for once a month when hormonal changes throw her better judgments out of whack; but even this has a natural and practical function in a relationship as it allows the airing of grievances that would normally be kept to oneself, where they accumulate.
A way to help a relationship in this regard is to follow a simple rule: for every grievance you wish to resolve be sure it is preceded by three real compliments. For example; after two previous real compliments, after dinner you might compliment your other for his or her cooking, and then just happen to mention that you'd prefer that they didn't leave the cap off the toothpaste. These little annoyances, if not dealt with, accumulate on a list of grievances that only come up when there is dispute - and then they all come out in a torrent.
In my comment I also meant to point out that a female can experience sexual pleasure on a much more intense and many-varied level than a male could ever dream of - every total climax can be potentially completely different for a female, and this is where the greatest pleasure for a male comes from as we are limited to only five levels, and the fifth is rarely reached. Males instinctively know that a female's pleasure is the measure of the sexual experience. Note that men will boast about their prowess with "She loved it! She was begging for more! She couldn't get enough!" rather than being selfish and declaring "I loved it! I was begging for more! I couldn't get enough!".
Female-kind is divided by a near 50% difference, somewhere between 40% and 60% of all women never experience sexual pleasure of any kind. Which is why attitudes between women on many subjects can be so opposite. It is also why most women believe their gender to be inferior in some way, they can see a clear divide inside their own social groups. This is wrong. Females are much better at networking and are naturally more communicative, THEY ARE BORN LEADERS, they are the power behind the throne and the hand that rocks the cradle, yet they account for only a small percentage of the people who govern this world. Unfortunately the only women who manage to make the transition from second-class advisory citizen to decision-making leader are those who display the worst aspects of males! If you ever wonder at the stupid and senseless choices that our leaders often come up with, there is your answer! However, any person from either gender can, with much effort, attain better than the average skills of the opposite gender. Men could, in an ideal world, have some small representation as leaders.
I prefer "self-stimulation" to "masturbation" because so many negative connotations are now related to "masturbation".
There are many reasons why many girls don't learn to self-stimulate during the formative years - they may be restricted by circumstance, having to share a bedroom or not realising that touching herself there felt good, or just being told not to do that when she first noticed it felt good when doing it, perhaps in front of a parent. Being able to experience an outside-nerve-centre (O.N.C) spasm is certainly necessary for a complete orgasm, but, many women do get by with deep-nerve-centre(D.N.C.) spasms, and, because women are most happy when they are emotionally satisfied, if they have a romantic partner sexual gratification becomes less important.
Many males are "naturals" at stimulating females that are capable of O.N.C. spasms but they are mostly inept in the maturation of said O.N.C.. And they are dangerous.
A woman can lose total control when in the throws of arousal when men cannot! Which makes the argument for a male's rape of a female even more ridiculous when they declare that "I was so turned on that I couldn't stop myself", usually blaming the female for her part in his arousal. But the real danger is in that males who are capable of taking away a female's control actually take advantage of the fact and end the encounter with actual penetration, when they would be better served to not. I'll use an example in explanation: Imagine a young couple in in the throws of passion in the not-very-convenient back seat of a car, for instance. He has stimulated her to the point of loss-of-control, and, even though he loves her, decides he's going to go the whole distance. She can't orgasm completely under less-than-perfect conditions and feels that she has been used afterward. Imagine the same circumstance, but instead of taking advantage of her the male tells her in the midst of her loss-of-control that he would like to consummate but that it wouldn't be perfect, and she deserved to have only the best circumstances for the day when they would complete the passion. If he did then bring her to spasm and kissed-and-cuddled her down from its peak it would go a long way toward enhancing the romantic aspect of their relationship. Can you see how this would effect the female's appreciation of him? Even if the relationship didn't come to fruition, the female would always have a place in her heart for the gentleman who treated her well. The loss of the ability to love that comes from seemingly endless failed sexual relationships is very common, and can and does lead to harmful aberrations. This is why complete-sex (including penetration) before marriage is actually a bad idea. This doesn't mean that all sex should be discounted before marriage, in fact, the closer a couple get to the big day the more they should be exploring each others bodies with mutual stimulation! By the way, oral sex is complimentary, which means it's a compliment! It should only be understood to be a compliment as there is no physical pleasure in giving it. You can never ask for a compliment or it ceases being a compliment.
I didn't mean for this reply to become so lengthy but I'm afraid that is what has happened. Sorry about that.
November 3, 2008 - 10:17pmI hope to be able to help my sisters any way I can through this forum, they are all beautiful in their many ways and they are all deserving of better than they get.
Thank you, miscortes, for your appreciation of this male's humble attempt at reparation.
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